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Making new friends

"Always remember that, nine times out of ten, you probably aren't having a full-on nervous breakdown- you just need a cup of tea and a biscuit." Caitlin Moran.

That was exactly I felt, nervous with excitement. You live a life in a comfortable bubble with your family and friends and sometimes you need to shake things up a bit and a blog is what I started. Some jump in and swim, other's like me dip the toes in slowly until I was used of the water. Scary cat you said?

 

Joining up a blog school.

The Clever Cookie blog school

This year I joined The Clever Cookie School of Blog. I wasn't expecting such a wonderful community of supportive and encouraging women and men, lead by our inspiring and loveliest mentors Chantelle of Fat Mum Slim and professional photographer Rowe Timson. It was 4 weeks of blogging, learning all about the blog world with great advice from our teachers/mentors and the best part was and still is the constant flow from the students- our blog community. Chantelle and Rowe gave us so much of their time and advice, answering all questions which is amazing considering our blog class is big! It felt personal and welcoming, as it got closer to the end of the 4th week, we started to feel sad and wanted more!

In the end of the course I completed so much within the month. I added more life and detail to my blog and started to post more (not so much during the month of our course) but post-course and keeping up with the community has been lovely. Thank you Chantelle and Rowe, you girls did amazing for a first timer for blog school!

Hooray!

 

The Sydney Clever Cookie Graduation High Noon Tea. 

It was during the course Sam with the help of Lisa, suggested a Sydney graduation event, at The Victorian Room in the QVB. An opportunity to get to meet the local students, mingling with bloggers alike. A lovely way to conclude our course.

As I travelled on the bus to the city, my nerves were trying to overcome my body and I know this feeling too well, anxiety. I kept calm and told myself it's only 2 hrs. This was a big goal for me, attending an event alone and meet a group of strangers (who aren't really). I felt this was something I couldn't miss out. My problem isn't that I'm an introvert but how the anxiety attacks my body and mind to stop me from socialising, conversing naturally with others. I didn't want to be a zombie like guest.

When I arrived, I waited to be seated. The waitress replied with a smile 'oh yes the big group with the gifts' directing me to the table.

As soon as I saw the faces, I relaxed. At first I may have come across as an extrovert, the nerves always make me talk more but after the introduction, I exhaled and realise it was going to be alright.  Everyone is so lovely and approachable and we talked non-stop, mincing words with the delicious food when the 2 hrs was nearly up. No! Too soon, we were warming up, making new friends; perhaps that's the reason we were given a glass of bubbles. We exchanged our gifts, lots of excitement and joy receiving notebooks, journals etc to get more inspired to write. Thanks to Lisa for the great gift exchange idea.

Overall, the morning went wonderfully well and all of us are looking forward to our next get together with new faces to meet from the girls who couldn't make it.

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As we sat down, we were greeted with this delicious gift by Sam. Sam's delicious caramel fudge recipe is found here.

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Delicious sweet treats...

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...all served with a glass of bubbles and pots of hot brewed tea with scones and finger sandwiches.

The girls.

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The lovely Shannon, Lisa (who organised the bookings and Happy birthday for the day too!) and Stephanie.

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Sneaky photo of Sam taking a pic.

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The lovely Stephanie, Kirralee and Di.

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The lovely Sam who thought of the idea of meeting up and Chris who made us lol (photo courtsey of Sam)

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Lovely Michelle and Jackie.

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Jackie's little lady joining the girl's group.

Clever Cookie Sydney graduatesThe first Sydney Clever Cookie Blog School graduates of 2014. (I'm the one sitting in the front and the lovely girl next to me is Vivien.)

Please hover and click over the names of the girls to check out their amazing blogs.

“Depression is a flaw in chemistry not character”

Robin Williams quote

 

The day is little sadder after receiving the tragic news of Robin Williams death. Don't let this fade away because there are friends, family and strangers out there who still suffer from depression. Spread your smiles and send them a text, email or even ask "R U OK?" One day they'll be happy and the next feeling alone, so never stop asking this one simple question.

I am too familiar with this black shadow. A friend described me a perfect analogy, "Depression is like the hole in the middle of the sweet donut. When you're in it, you will always be surrounded by the sweetness of life, just need some help to be pulled out of the hole."

I am open about this because I am no longer in denial and I want those who are to realise it's OK, you are NOT alone.
Since being a parent, my train of thought has shifted using cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) and anti-depressants; when I get those black hole days, I can't afford to lose valuable time with my daughter in my life, she (and my husband) is the pink icing of my donut.

However in my adolescent years it was a different story and I remember how much I hated myself; with low self-esteem, never felt I "fitted" in any group (I was a tomboy and wasn't interested in boys until later, the boundaries between my cultural up-brining and aussie friends clashed. Sounds like a normal 'teen' life but it was worse for me when social anxiety was added to the mix even though I love to socialise. As an adult today, a lot of those adolescent dilemmas no longer exists but the excess worrying has stayed on, anxiety is the problem.

As a mum of Miss Cheeky, I am full aware of all the signs if she ever falls into this pit, I will try to supply her with all the supports she needs when it is needed. Now, it's ok to have shyness or nervous energy (I have both!) but it should never stop anyone from doing what they want to accomplish. It's the understanding and support from the parent that is crucial. If you are a parent and do worry about your child, you can seek information from your local early childhood centre, family support centres like Catholic Care.

 

I wrote this poem when I was in my teens and kept it all these years to remind myself how you can be still inspired despite feeling depressed.

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The flip side of depression is you can be expressive visually, writing, baking or musically. Unlike anxiety, which  you become 'stuck' until you have calmed down, depression can move with you. When you fall into the pits call a friend, put on a funny movie or call helpline.

So just remember this... "Depression is a flaw in chemistry not character". So R U OK?

Help line: Beyond Blue 1300 224 636 Lifeline 13 11 14

 

R U OK?

R U OK?

 

September the 12th is a day to ask, R U OK?

 

As a person who stills suffers from anxieties and depression, I know too well how good it is to vent out your feelings once you calmed down from the storm.

 

People can’t read minds, so whether you are the one who asks ‘R U OK?’ or is the sufferer; the importance of this organisation is to open up and communicate.

 

So go on, ask that person R U OK? Because you don’t realize how much you can help being the one who listens.

For more information, click here because we never ever alone, nor should any one be.